Wednesday, July 2, 2008
I'm a foreigner. My parents are away from me. Most of the time I hardly reach them. So, I seldom discussion on the small matters with them. But I always consider their suggestion. Eventhough I sometimes doesn't like it, I know that the want the best for me. I seldom argue back as most of their suggestions are useful and reasonable for me. By right, every parents wants their children to have a better future or some of them want their children to be better than them. From this point, we could tell that parents will give a good suggestion but not the best. We run our live and that means we are the one who can control ourselves. We could take parents' suggestion and modify them to suit our way of live. However, Singapore lifestyle makes both parents and children have more time together. Saturday and Sunday is a day-off. In other country it may not be the case. I think by spending more time together, parents should already understand their own son or daughter.
In other view, parents' obsession will make them to overdo their children. Many of the parents have regrets in their past and do not want their son to repeat it. It's also the parents' proud if their children do well. In this case, we should discuss the matter together if you think their suggestion is too much for you. I believe that parents will understand our rebuttal.
Children, especially teenagers, are not comfortable to discuss personal matters. They are more comfortable to discuss it with friends. But I believe that parents will try their best to solve our matters. In fact, most parents are willing to know more about their children and if they couldn't get, they are willing to find out. So i believe family are the best friend.
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Parents Know Best. Do they? The bad thing about parents being parents always think for whats best for us. They think for us, like we have no sense of judgement. They think for us, like we don't have a mind of our own. They think for us, like we are not individuals. They think for us as if we, the humans we are, have no right to choose our fate. On the other hand, they were the ones who raised us. They raised us like we are their most important part of their lives. They raised us like they couldn't live without us. They should have the right to tell us to do things. They should make decisions for us. They should do what parents are supposed to, to think of what's best for us. We might be too immature to them to make our own decisions. And its true teens these days are somewhat immature. Some of us make rash decisions like take drugs from irresponsible adults/teens. Some of us get into relationships that might change their lifestyles. Some of us paid the price with freedom or worse, death. Not getting what we want is always disappointing. Since teens are maturing each day, we usually overreact under these circumstances. We scream at our parents, we give them bad attitude, we might even be some sort of sadist and watch them suffer. Even so, our parents will always forgive us for our wrong doings.
Personally, I feel that my parents know me well. I get to talk to them everyday, they talk to me everyday, not those simple "Studied already?" or "Eaten already?" kind of conversation, we really spend time talking to each other about everything we want to talk about. I think many teens mistreat their parents because they haven't got to know them best yet, which would explain teens thinking that their parents are overprotective over them.
After all, how can we be the person we are now without the help of our parent's guidance?
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Parents. They are the ones who gave us life. They are the ones who raised us. They are the ones who guided us as we were being developed intellectually and emotionally. Who dares disagree? We, children, are the products of procreation between our parents. However, that does not in anyway prove that parents know best. We may be the immediate descendants of our parents, but that does not show that parents know what we want in life. Respect will be given when respect is due. I am not saying that we should not form any sort of rebellion against our parents, but what happens in the instance whereby a child is in fact more intellectual than the parent? What happens when a child truly is a aware of what he or she is dong? Simply because parents have spent more time in this world than us, does that really show that their actions are ultimately the most beneficial for us.
Many of us have the mental stereotype of the fact that parents are at least twenty years our senior and therefore whatever they say is right. This is where i disagree. What parents say are merely what they think is morally correct. However, at the end of the day, everything comes down to each and everyone of us being an individual, with our own set of morals, in many occasions, a set that has been influenced by our parents. Where is the individuality in us when are just following what our parents instruct? Where is the sense of originality in us when we are simply imitating our parents? It is said that those who outstand are the one that progress. With the current mindset of the fact that all parents know best, what progress will each individual make in society?
Do you communicate well with your parents? Well, at least five out of every ten children in Singapore do not. I believe that communicating with your parents is not an issue of whether or not you have the time, but whether or not you are willing to do it. I am sure that we all spend at least an hour everyday with our parents be it at the dining table or in the car, but honestly, is there interaction going on at these times? Most of us dare not or are unwilling to approach our parents for advice. Why is this so? Possibilities are that our parents may get suspicious of us sprouting a very random question out of no where, or perhaps we are guilty conscious of having done something without seeking our parents' advice beforehand. As a result, many of us fail to see the fact that what has been done has been done, and that we cannot turn back upon it but instead we should use it as a learning point. Yes! I know, the sentence i just used sounds awkwardly familiar, almost as if someone of the previous generation used it once. It is a condolence that every parent would want to use on their child when he or she has made a mistake, but how are they supposed to offer any form of encouragement when we do not even approach our parents to plead guilty?
In actual fact, every parent cares for his or her child and would definitely want the child to strive for the best. However, it so happens that sometimes when decisions are made, by our parents in particular, the right decisions may not be favourable to all, but the popular decisions may also seem to be going against our moral values. So, towards such problems, is there a solution that will benefit everyone?
-Darryl Ong
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Do parents know best?
From the time you were born, until the time you went to primary school, until the time you went to secondary school, who were always with you all along? Who gave you money? Who took care of you when you are sick? Who lent support to you when you need help? Who give you love? Without parents, do you think you will be what you are today? Well of course, all these contributions comes from our parents and they always wanted to give us what is best for us.
For me, parents are my everything. As i mention earlier, without parents we are nothing. Cherish your own parents, don't regret when you lost your love ones. If i see a gap in between me and my parents, i will try mend it. They tried their best to understand me, i should also play my part in trying to understand them. Sometimes parents does make decision for me. Even though i don't like it, i try to appreciate their care towards me. They want to give us the best, not the worst. They will never intend to harm us.
Many teenagers will think that parents don't know them, don't understand them. But think back, did they voice out what they want? Not many will. They will think its so 'uncool' to voice out what they want from their parents. The only time they will start to ask for what they want is when they are short of money. Teenagers nowadays spend more time with their friends than with their parents. That's shows why parents do not get what their child wants. Of course, we can't put all the blame on teenagers. Parents still make mistakes. In this new era, many parents put their work first before their children. But these parents think that if they earn more money, they can make their children even happier.
Be rude to parents is intolerant. I always find no reasons why should we be rude to parents. We are living organisms, we have brain, we can think, and we always have a choice to choose for. But why choose to be rude? Can't we solve it peacefully? It's so easy. Just relax and sit down together with your parents and talk over it nicely. There is no need to shout, scream or scold. Building relationship between us and parents are easy too. Parents can do their part by getting home early and have a family dinner together. We can also do our part by spending more time with parents than with friends. Public holidays are the best for family activities. So why not plan some activities, like going swimming together, go for movies together or even go for a family picnic.
As teenagers, most of us are unable to share or discuss personal issue with our parents. Most of us will rather discuss it with our good friends or cousins. But we can always treat our parents as our best friends. They will be glad if we could share and discuss our personal issue with them, and they will be always be helpful too. What they go through in life and what their experiences in life are even more than the rice we eat, of course they will give us the best solutions for our problems. So in conclusion, i think that approaching our own parents is the best choice to make and they will always give us the best solution.
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